谈一场“成年人式”的恋爱

　　zyx的寂寞星球

　　众所周知，韩剧向来以谈情说爱见长，其实这并非什么坏事，能把爱情表现得又唯美、又震撼、又感动、又搞笑，韩剧的编剧和导演在这方面可谓登峰造极。然而还是有不少中国观众总说韩国爱情剧很幼稚无脑，动不动就是“车祸、失忆和癌症”。

　　其实这类的韩剧模式早已停留在上世纪，今天本人力荐韩国治愈系爱情剧《没关系，是爱情》。这是一部我刷了5遍的韩剧，里面没有狗血桥段，更多的是精神病人互相治愈的温暖描绘和对性爱的探讨。这部剧也是我最爱的一部浪漫爱情剧之一，其中有我最喜欢的爱情台词：“比起任何其他，因为有一起经历的回忆，所以才会有热烈的和解。这才是爱情。”

　　简介

　　没关系，是爱情

　　本剧采用幽默浪漫的手法，描绘性格迥异的两人偶然间在一个电视讨论节目中相遇，从互相吵闹，到彼此治愈，并为观众带来夏季阵雨般清新与感动的过程。

　　一个是心理医生，一个是职业作家，他们都有心理疾病和不为人知的家庭故事。一定程度上来说他们是同类人，对于爱情一直冷静，却在遇到彼此后开始疯狂。就像剧名说的那样：“没关系，我们拥有彼此，即使对这个世界失望透顶，爱情的美好会治愈我们走下去。”

　　剧本构思

　　剧情生活化

　　总所周知，看韩剧向来会让人产生想谈恋爱的冲动。原因很简单，韩剧剧情贴近生活，会让观众产生代入感，引起观众共鸣。《没关系，是爱情》可谓是其中的典型代表。本人作为阅片无数的韩剧迷，这部剧是我认为最甜的韩剧之一。别说我花痴，但这部韩剧真的让我产生了谈恋爱的冲动哈哈哈哈。

　　随便选个场景：男主渐渐喜欢上女主，在公交车站满心欢喜地等女主下班。那种略带羞涩的爱慕神情就像一个遇到初恋的男孩，让人怦然心动。

　　人物塑造

　　圆形人物

　　“圆形人物是指文学作品中具有复杂性格特征的人物。这类人物的特点是性格有形成与发展的过程。”《没关系，是爱情》中每个角色都有自己的人生创孔，那些创孔来自于个人性格、家庭缺陷，因此一旦剥下表象的面具，每个人都有张苍白虚弱的脸。但正因每个人都不完美，观众因角色们不断成长，互相治愈的故事而感动，产生共鸣。

　　男主（张宰烈）是个重度精神分裂者，这源自于他童年时期被父亲虐待的惨痛经历。因此长大之后他幻想出一个与自己经历一样的悲惨少年，有时甚至会因为这个幻想而伤害自己。在偶然下，他与女主（池海秀）相爱，女主用理解和爱逐渐走进他的内心，为他带来曾经缺失的温暖，使他慢慢除去了幻想，治愈了自己。

　　然而女主也并非完美，她患有性爱恐惧症。小时候她曾撞见自己的母亲与别人偷情，因此她心中留下阴影，对一切男女间的亲密行为感到恐惧。她会更爱人接吻时紧张，甚至拥抱都会感到浑身不自在。

　　男主对她而言是能包容她一切的存在。他会包容她接吻时的紧张感，并用生活中的小事温暖她，比如在公交车站等她回家，带她一起去旅行。

　　借用剧中很有价值的一句话：“发病时他们的精神会变成碎片，可是完成时那片拼图就是完整连贯的”这便是最好的治愈。

　　本剧中的“爱情观”

　　《没关系，是爱情》是韩国第一部以精神疾病为题材的浪漫爱情剧，编剧以精神病人这一清新脱俗的视角，深刻探讨成年人的“爱情观”。

　　爱情是否完美无缺

　　因为两位主角都具有精神缺陷，因此对“感情”尤其是爱情极为敏感。本剧中对爱情完美性的讨论占了一定比重。女主因为自己的性爱恐惧症，在与异性交往上遇到很多困难，遭遇了自身痛苦和男友分手，所以她常常反思爱情到底如何。

　　别人说爱情是美妙和浪漫的，然而女主却不这么觉得，于是她问男主：“你会认为爱情只会带来美好、心动、快乐、幸运一类的吗？”男主答道：“应该会带来痛苦、失望、悲伤、不幸。但同时也会赐予你击败这些的力量，这种程度才能算爱情。”

　　成熟的爱情：

　　本剧中男主毫不掩饰对性爱的探讨。女主曾问他：“你怎么看待‘上床’这件事？”男主非常直接地回答道：“这决定权其实在你，但是我想说：‘我喜欢你，我并不否认我想跟你上床，这是成年人很正常的想法啊。’”

　　是的，一别以往韩剧，这里的爱情就是那么直接和一定程度上的“赤裸”，没有过多的情情爱爱，没有霸道总裁的虚影，更多的是对成熟爱情的探讨，对人性中“爱情观”的直面展现

　　直面人性难题

　　人性里的难题有很多：那些我们不愿意面对的自己，那些我们感到羞耻却又真实存在的意念，那些我们感到羞愧却无法说出口的抱歉…只有当我们深刻的懂得人性的难题，才会对生活的不易报以温暖。

　　《没关系，是爱情》里，编剧把赤裸的原生心理创伤展现在观众面前，写进了人生百态里的无奈和遗憾。用精神病人的世界观重新探讨“性爱”这一较为开放的主题，展现出人性的善良与肮脏，并在这纷乱的世界中不断治愈自己。这才是真正的暖心之作，每个人都可以在这部剧中找到自己的难题，并通过这部剧找到一定的慰藉。这也是电视剧的魅力所在！

　　回顾韩国爱情剧：

　　演变历程

　　最后我想谈谈韩国爱情剧的演变过程，从而反思影视作品对我们生活的真正意义。

　　本人认为韩国爱情剧可以大致分为4个阶段：

　　20世纪的代表

　　首先是以“癌症、车祸、失忆”著称的韩剧，这也是多数中国观众对韩剧的刻板影响。然而这种电视剧只存在于上世纪，如《蓝色生死恋》、《冬季恋歌》、《天国的阶梯》等。

　　21世纪韩流崛起

　　到了21世纪，韩剧进入了另一个阶段，以“王子男主和小白花女主”为特点的玛丽苏电视剧。如《继承们》、《来自星星的你》等。这些电视剧开启了韩国甚至整个亚洲的玛丽苏先河，培养出了一批又一批的“长腿欧巴”，很多韩流明星都来源于这个时代。

　　真正的蜕变

　　经过不断发展，韩剧开始注重对现实的描写，像韩国电影的风格靠拢，于是这是韩国导演和编剧开始聚焦现实问题，展现社会的人情冷暖。这时期的代表作品有《没关系，是爱情》、《杀了我治愈我》、《请回答》系列

　　更加聚焦现实

　　随后到2016年，韩剧开始往“大尺度”方向尝试。这里的“大尺度”不仅仅是暴露、血腥的镜头，还有对敏感题材的探讨。在此基础上韩剧对现实的发掘也进了一大步，开始探讨女性在社会上的歧视问题，大女主戏开始流行，代表作品有《迷雾》、《夫妻的世界》等。

　　纵观韩国爱情剧的发展，不难发现韩剧早已摆脱了“癌症、失忆、车祸”的狗血桥段，焕发出新的活力。影视剧是一件艺术品，它所反映的是我们的生活。而电视剧的意义便在于电视剧反映出人们的生活问题，并能让观众通过这部剧思考这些问题。这正是电视剧的魅力！

　　以上观点仅代表我个人想法，如果您有兴趣可以关注我的微信公众号，里面还有很多精彩推文：

　　English Version

　　Have a "grown-up" relationship：

　　Recommend Korean soap opera: “It's OK, This is Love"”

　　As we all know, Korean dramas are always good at love, which is not a bad thing. They can make love beautiful, touching and funny. The scriptwriters and directors of Korean dramas are the best in this respect. However, many Chinese audiences always say that Korean love dramas are na?ve and are prone to "car accidents, memory loss and cancer". However, this kind of South Korean drama model has long remained in the last century, and today I strongly recommend the South Korean healing love drama "It’s OK, This is Love". This is a Korean drama that I have watched for 5 times. Unlike other Korean Operas, this is more about the warm depiction of mental patients healing each other and the discussion of sex. It's also one of my favorite romantic dramas, with one of my favorite love lines: "More than anything else, there's a passionate reconciliation because of the memories of what we've been through together. And this is the true love."

　　Brief summary:

　　This drama uses humorous romantic technique, depicting two people of disparate disposition to meet accidentally in a TV discussion program, from each other is noisy, heal each other, bring for the audience the process as fresh as summer shower and move. One was a psychiatrist, the other a professional writer, both with mental illness and untold family stories. They are kind of like each other at a certain extent. They are always calm about love, but when they meet each other, they become crazy. As the title says, "It's okay, we have each other, and even if we're disappointed in the world, the beauty of love will heal us."

　　Script idea:

　　Dramatization:

　　As we all know, watching Korean dramas has always made people want to fall in love. The reason is very simple. The plot of Korean dramas is close to life, which will make the audience feel involved and arouse their resonance. “It’s OK This is Love” is a typical example. As a fan of countless Korean dramas, this drama is one of the sweetest Korean dramas in my opinion.

　　Choose a scene: the leading actor gradually liked the leading actress, in the bus station to wait for she came off work with joy. That kind of slightly shy love looks like a boy who met the first love. Wow, that is “The Flipped.”

　　Characterization:

　　Round figures: "A round character is a character in literature with complex personality traits. This type of character is characterized by a process of formation and development. "Every character in “It's OK, This is Love” has his or her own life holes, and those holes come from personal character and family defects, so once you take off the mask of appearance, everyone has a pale and weak soul. But just because no one is perfect, the audience is moved and resonates with the stories of characters growing and healing each other.

　　The male protagonist (Jang Jae Lie) is a person with severe schizophrenia, which comes from his painful experience of being abused by his father in his childhood. As a result, he grew up dreaming of a miserable teenager who had the same experience as himself, sometimes even hurting himself because of this illusion. In the accidental, he and she (pool highshow) in love, she with understanding and love gradually into his heart, for him to bring once missing warmth, so that he slowly removed the illusion, heal himself.

　　However, the heroine is not perfect, she suffers from sexual phobias. As a child, she caught her mother having an affair with someone else, leaving a shadow in her heart and a fear of all intimacy between men and women. She will be more nervous when kissing, and even feel uncomfortable about hugging. However, the hero to her is to be able to tolerate all her existence. He embraces the worrying of her kissing and warms her up with the little things in life, like waiting for her to come home at the bus stop or taking her on a trip.

　　To borrow a valuable sentence from the play: "when they get sick, their spirit will be broken into pieces, but when they finish taking a piece of puzzle, they will be complete and coherent." This is the best healing.

　　The "Love view" in this play:

　　“It’s OK, This is Love” is the first romantic drama about mental illness in South Korea. The scriptwriter deeply explores adults' "view of love" from the fresh and free perspective of mental patients.

　　Whether the love is perfect:

　　Because both of them have mental defects, they are very sensitive to "feelings", especially love. There's a lot of discussion about the perfectness of love in this show. Because of her sexual phobia, she encountered a lot of difficulties in contact with the opposite sex, suffered from her own pain and her boyfriend broke up, so she often reflect on how love in the end.

　　Others say that love is wonderful and romantic, but she does not feel so, so she asked the hero: "Do you think that love will only bring beauty, heart, happiness, lucky and so on?" The hero replies, "It should bring pain, disappointment, sadness and misfortune. But it also gives you the strength to defeat those things, and that's how love works."

　　Mature love:

　　The main character makes no secret of his discussion of sex. She had asked him: "How do you think of 'go to bed' this matter?" "The decision is really up to you, but I want to say, 'I like you, I'm not denying that I want to sleep with you, that's a normal adult thing," he says.'" Yes, different from the previous Korean dramas, love here is so direct and "naked" to a certain extent, without too much love and affection, without the shadow of an overlord. It is more about the discussion of mature love and the direct display of the "love view" in human nature

　　Facing the human dilemma:

　　There are many problems in human nature: the selves we don't want to face, the thoughts we are ashamed of but really exist, the regrets we are ashamed of but can't say, the regrets we want to love but can't love, the conscience and principles we have to give in order to survive...Only when we deeply understand the problems of human nature, will not be easy to respond with warmth.

　　In “It’s OK, This is Love”, the scriptwriter shows the naked original psychological trauma in front of the audience, and writes it into the helplessness and regret of life. Revisiting the more open theme of "sex" with the world view of a psychopath, showing the goodness and filth of human nature, and constantly healing themselves in this chaotic world, this is the real heart-warming work, everyone can find their own problems in this play, and through this play to find a certain comfort. This is also the charm of TV series!